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Love At First Sight?

 

                Is there such a thing as, “love at first sight?” Some people believe there is. Just because I am incapable of falling in love at first sight, does not mean others can’t. Maybe love at first sight does exist, maybe it doesn’t. Eye’s meet, numbers exchanged, dinner dates, kisses, love, and marriage. Two people meet, the guy knows that she is exactly what he wants. He fell in love right off of the bat. Did he actually fall in love at first sight? What goes through somebody’s brain to cause them to think they fell in love at first sight? Is it some sort of adrenaline rush causing endorphins to be released throughout the brain? Is the guy that intrigued or infatuated with the girl that he has this preconceived notion that he is going to love her because of how strong his attraction is? Does this set the relationship up for failure or create a foundation for a successful one? Most things in life revolve around the way a person views the subject. If you wake up and think this is going to be a shitty day, you are going to get a shitty day. Doctors like to say it’s all in your head. So is this the same case with love at first sight?  

Guy sees girl. Guy is attracted to girl. Guy decides he has to have that girl, so he strikes up conversation. Guy “falls in love,” asks her out. He thinks its love at first sight, and at the odd chance of it working out, or at least for a while, things are going well. Life is great. The relationship couldn’t be better. They’ve been dating for a couple of months now and haven’t even had an argument. This proves his belief that there is such a thing as love at first sight. Will that love actually last? Does a person really even believe its love at first sight or is this an attempt to deceive the opposing person to get just what he or she wants, by telling that person what they want to hear? Is this my fear of rejection rearing its ugly head out of my writing?

 Can somebody even fall in love not even having known the person, or anything about them? What is required to make that love last? Are people more likely to put effort into the relationship having knowing each other less or more? In the olden days there was arranged marriages. I’m sure some of that probably involved some love at first sight cases, but overall they had to learn how to love each other. Is love at first sight similar to this? Do you fall into such a deep consensual attraction that you learn to love? In this case is it even considered love at first sight?  What is love at first sight? Don’t you have to get to know somebody before you can “love” them?

Is there even such a thing as love anymore? Now a days marriages don’t even seem to last. People jump into relationships and everything is fine and dandy until hard times come up, then they don’t want to work through their problems. People go decades married then find somebody else catches their attention and leave their families in the dust. Affairs happen, society gets so caught up in their glutton-like behaviors that they have no morals or values anymore. People are selfish. Selfish people cheat on their spouse. This ruins love. Somebody falls madly, deeply in love, and gets their heart broken because the woman wanted to run off on her family to have fun for a few nights. Is this even worth the consequences? Does she think about what’s going to happen and not care or does she just reach the conclusion that the life she thought she wanted, just no longer appeals to her? What are the odds anymore of a relationship lasting? Can somebody fall in love more than once in a life time? Is there just one true love of your life, and once that person screws you over there’s nothing left to give to anybody else? Fact of the matter is, once you give you heart to somebody, whether it works or not, that part of your heart can never be given to anybody else.

There are different types of love. Who even knows what love is anyways? Society leads us to believe that love is this cracked up hallmark holiday, like Valentine’s Day or something. Everything is just red roses and great. They fail to show us the hard times and making it through them. Figuring out how to agree to disagree or how to even stick together. How do you keep love going once you fall in love? Love is easy when the times are easy. The hard times are what proves it. Is the love good enough strong enough to make it work? Is that person worth climbing over the mountain to reach that happy plateau, where everything is just okay again? After all, we do need people. We are a needy society. We need people to laugh, advance in our jobs, to encourage, to offer helping hand when you can’t lift that heavy dresser, or to feel good. Our need for people surrounds us. So, why not try and make relationships work? Friendships require love also. What separates different types of love? What makes somebody love one person more than another? Some would say a love for a child is unconditional. What is it about that love that forces you to love no matter what? Why can’t we love our significant others just as much or friends?

            I’m not saying that love at first sight does or does not exist. I’m not saying that I do or don’t agree with it. I feel sort of bias on this topic really. It intrigues me to know whether it does not or does exist. Being in a relationship causes my mind to drift away and wander to the idea, is there such a thing as love at first sight? Is this a concept or reality? Is it temporary or permanent?